Holidays are about family and reconnecting with loved ones we may not have seen in a while. If you are like many families, you spend more time with your parents and/or children during the holidays than any other time of the year. If you are visiting elderly parents you may notice that they are not getting around as easily as they once did. Or, if you are a parent hosting a holiday dinner, you may come to realize that cleaning, decorating and preparing a meal is a little harder than it used to be.
As families gather together to spend quality time, share meals and gives thanks, the perfect opportunity presents itself to discuss some weightier topics we sometimes try to put off – like plans for aging.
Here are tips for family conversations about future living plans.
1. Begin the conversation before circumstances force you.
Bringing up the topic of future living plans, whether you are a concerned son/daughter or are a senior yourself, can be hard and even emotional. But, it is important to have this conversation before circumstances force you. If you are thinking about your plans for the future, talk to your family now. Moving to a retirement community while you are active and healthy will allow you to enjoy the wonderful amenities, live a maintenance-free lifestyle and make new friends. Additionally, at SpringShire, making plans for the future now will allow you to pick your ideal home. You will not be put on a waiting list, which is often the case at other retirement communities. By making plans at SpringShire now, you will not feel rushed – you will sign now and move later. This will give you the time you need to sell your home and pack your things without pressure.
Children, if your parents are getting older and haven’t brought up their future plans yet, bring this up with them while they are still able to live safely on their own. This gives you the opportunity to discuss the future in a non-threatening, hypothetical way. At SpringShire, residents will move to the community while they are still active and healthy. But, they will have the assurance that if something were to happen to them they would be able to remain in their community and receive assistance.
2. Ask the right questions.
For children, the most challenging part of the conversation may be getting your parents to realize that they will need assistance sometime in the future. They may have the false notion that moving to a retirement community may mean they are giving up their independence in some way. Assure them that a move to a maintenance-free community, such as SpringShire, will make their day-to-day life easier and allow them more time to do the things they enjoy. Ask questions like: “How’s the house? It must be hard keeping this place in good shape” and “Do you need help with household chores?”
3. Identify the what-ifs.
Children, if both of your parents are still alive, ask what will happen if one of them is gone. Would they like the home to be sold? Should the surviving parent move to a retirement community? If so, what kind and where? These questions can be hard, but asking them now can prevent stress and confusion in the future. You can bring up this topic by saying, “Mom and Dad, I know that each of you are okay right now, but what should we do if that changes?” Explain to them that in a retirement community, like SpringShire, if one of them requires medical assistance they will be able to remain in the community with their spouse nearby. If they were not living in a retirement community this could be a completely different scenario – one parent may have to live away from the other to receive the help they need.
Parents, you should also talk to your children about the what-ifs. Tell them that moving to a retirement community, like SpringShire, with onsite medical care will allow you to remain independent for as long as possible.
4. Suggest a time to visit a retirement community.
Once you begin the conversation, suggest touring local retirement communities. Schedule an appointment while family is in town for the holidays. The SpringShire community will have beautiful living options as well as impressive amenities. Those looking to move to SpringShire are sure to get excited about the Fitness & Aquatic Center, spa, Movie Theater, library, and more – and everyone will have peace of mind knowing quality medical care and transportation is available within the community. We invite you to contact our Information Center, (252) 317-2303, to schedule a time to stop by and see our virtual tour and beautiful property.
5. Be prepared.
If you are having this conversation with your children, tell them why you are excited about moving to a retirement community. Explain to them how this will improve your quality of life as you age. If you are having this conversation with parents, be ready to offer information on retirement living communities in the area and the maintenance-free lifestyle that is offered. If you would like to learn more about active, maintenance-free living at SpringShire, we encourage you to contact us for more information. We would love to help prepare you for this important conversation.
6. Be supportive and understanding.
Children should remember that these decisions are ultimately for their parents to make. Show them that you will be supportive no matter what they decide. Being forceful or pushy may only make things worse. You should remain upbeat and supportive, even if you are frustrated.
Parents, remember that although this is your decision it will also affect your children’s lives as well. Be honest with them and have open communication about your wishes, but also be willing to listen to their concerns and questions. If you want input on where you live, it is better to discuss before it becomes an emergency.
Last Thursday, the SpringShire team gathered with future residents for a Friendsgiving celebration. We had a wonderful time celebrating the upcoming holiday season and enjoying a Thanksgiving meal with new friends and neighbors. We can’t wait for many more holiday celebrations together!
Today, SpringShire would like you to meet Advisory Board Member Andrew Ross.
Andrew is the Coordinator for Lifelong Learning Programs at East Carolina University. ECU Lifelong Learning is an educational program for adults 50 and older who have a desire and joy for learning and personal fulfillment. Andrew works to create opportunities that stimulate cultural learning, promote social interaction and broaden horizons in many creative ways. Courses through ECU Lifelong Learning are taught by experienced professionals, many having strong tie to the ECU community.
SpringShire has partnered with ECU Lifelong Learning to bring these opportunities to our future residents. “The relationship between SpringShire and the Lifelong Learning Program is an exciting one,” says Andrew. “Our program can provide great learning opportunities on top of the ones offered on site at SpringShire, and we in turn look forward to the potential growth our program could see as a result of the influx of future residents,” he continues.
“I am excited about working on the Advisory Board with other professionals in the aging community to continue to make Pitt County a prime location for older adults,” comments Andrew.
Prior to his work with ECU Lifelong Learning, Andrew has worked at the Fountains at the Albemarle in Tarboro and the Pitt County Council on Aging in Greenville. “Continuing Care Retirement Communities (CCRC) offer invaluable services to residents and I am happy to be a part of the formation of SpringShire, Greenville’s newest CCRC,” he says.
A native of just outside of Charlotte, NC, Andrew received both his Bachelors and Masters Degrees from East Carolina University. Andrew has called Greenville his home for almost 10 years and is excited to be back at ECU.
At SpringShire, we are excited about upcoming programs and continuing to work with Andrew.
Traditions- a word we often hear around this time of year. Many of our Thanksgiving celebrations are filled with these traditions, passed down from generations before or just beginning to take shape. Turkey fried or baked? Tag football in the front yard or college football games on TV? Everyone’s holiday traditions are little different, and the same is true for everyone’s retirement dreams. Do you envision spending your retirement traveling the world or spending time with family? Will it be a time to play golf or a time to volunteer? Regardless of your holiday traditions or retirement dreams, here are 5 things all retirees can be thankful for this Thanksgiving:
1. Family and Friends
Throughout your life, friends and family have been there to support and motivate you along the way. Be thankful for the moments you have spent with them and for the opportunities to continue to deepen those relationships. Now that you are retired you may find that you have much more time to spend with friends and family – be thankful for that too!
2. Life Experiences
Each year of life represents another year of experiences. When you think about your life up to this point, the two things that probably matter the most are the experiences you’ve had and the people you shared them with. You may recall remarkable places you’ve visited, great accomplishments or life-changing moments. Be thankful for all life experiences, good and bad, because without them you wouldn’t be where you are today. As you journey through your post-retirement years, continue to keep your life full of new experiences.
Along with life experiences comes wisdom. Be thankful for the times you failed that helped you grow. Be thankful for those mistakes that taught you important life lessons. These experiences have made you wise and now make it possible for you to give some of the best advice. Share you wisdom with loved ones this holiday season – Thanksgiving dinner is the perfect time! Now these lessons will be engrained in minds for generations to come. See, wasn’t it all worth it?
It may sound strange, but one thing all seniors can be thankful for is technology. Just think back to years ago, when you were growing up. Think of all the things that are now easier, faster or even possible because of technology. It may be hard to learn some of today’s newest technologies, but luckily a lot of the technology we benefit from, we don’t even have to know how it works – like medical advancements. Thanks to medical advancements people are living longer, healthier lives – and that’s something we all can be thankful for!
During retirement you may have noticed just how thankful you are for hobbies – new and old. Hobbies are a way to relax while doing something you enjoy. They are a fantastic way to network, build lifelong friendships and bring joy to life. Be thankful for the hobbies that help clear your mind, provide a moment of mental relief and inspire you to achieve more.
What else are you thankful for? The list could go on and on. This holiday season don’t forget to recognize these things and show gratitude. Studies have even shown that practicing gratitude can improve emotional and physical well-being – which is another thing to be thankful for!
Here at SpringShire we are thankful for friends, new and old. As our plans for the community move forward and homes are reserved, we are reminded of how important our future residents are – and we thank them for going on this journey with us!
When making post-retirement plans, many people feel overwhelmed – and making these plans will only become harder as you get older. Your current home is full of memories and, let’s be honest, a little junk too, which makes the thought of moving even more daunting. But, does the home you currently live in meet your needs? If it does now, will it still meet your needs in the next 5 or 10 years? Will your home suit your retirement living plans?
When answering the question, “What do I want in a home for retirement living?” consider the following features:
Location means more than just the city you will call home. It includes whether you prefer an urban or rural setting and if you are close to the services and healthcare you may require as you age. Is being close to loved ones important to you? How about being close to shops and entertainment? These are all things to consider when thinking about a specific location.
The SpringShire community will be set among 138 acres, surrounded by nature, yet will still be close to Greenville’s city center. The Vidant Medical community is also conveniently located only miles away. This will provide residents with many conveniences, including excellent restaurants and shopping, as well as prestigious medical facilities.
Type of Home
What kind of home would you prefer? Would you enjoy having space in an area separate from others? Are you the sociable type who loves interacting with others and being close to neighbors? Your personality will play a big part in deciding what kind of home will be the perfect fit for you.
The SpringShire community will offer residents their choice from villas, estate homes and various apartment floor plans.
Once you’ve decided on what type of home will meet your retirement living goals, you now have to decide on the right layout for your home. Think about how many bedrooms you want. Do you need room for guests or would you prefer them to stay in a hotel or other accommodation when they visit? Do you need extra space for storage? Do you like to entertain? Consider all of these things when deciding on the floor plan of your estate home, villa or apartment.
SpringShire will have homes with a variety of floor plans ranging from 800-1800 square feet, with one, two and three bedroom options. SpringShire residences will have walk-in closets and easy access showers.
Services and Amenities
What added features would you like in your home and community? What amenities will suit your lifestyle and allow you to live comfortably for years to come?
SpringShire will allow residents to live maintenance-free by offering indoor/outdoor maintenance, housekeeping and flat linen service. Residents will also enjoy a host of amenities including a fitness and indoor aquatics center, multiple dining venues, walking trails, movie theater, salon and much more.
In order to make the best decision about the kind of home that will meet your needs as you age, it is important to explore these questions. If SpringShire’s maintenance-free living appeals to you, please contact us today for more information and to see a virtual tour of the property.
Yesterday SpringShire held a Fall Open House where we welcomed many new people, who literally walked in, wanting to know about the retirement community their friends have been talking about. We’re excited that SpringShire’s become a part of the maintenance free living “buzz” throughout eastern North Carolina communities.
What a pleasure it was to introduce them to SpringShire and its many amenities as we were able to sit together, discuss their needs, take the virtual tour, and preview the many living options including estate, villa, and apartment homes. It was a beautiful day at SpringShire and we look forward to our new guests becoming new residents in the near future!